Opportunity to Turn

Here's the point, the bottom-line: When you fail at something, do not assume that your way is just as good as any other way of doing that particular thing, and that it all just boils down to "chance" while you remain content with having done "the best you could."

A few real-life pictures of how this assumption can come up:

Opening a can of Sprite, desiring to drink the 12 oz. inside:
If you take a knife and try to stab a hole in the side of the can, you will gain access to the contents of the can. But you will end up with a good portion of Sprite on the counter and probably on your clothes, not to mention the spillage on your face when you try to take a drink. This is a simple case of failure. At this point, someone else may come in and point to the handy tab on top. You don't want to acknowledge that your failure was your fault, so you point to chance. "It doesn't matter how you go about it, anyone can make a mess of this. My way doesn't seem to have worked this time."

Removing a large tree from your yard, with no serious injury:
If you put ten trained wood-peckers near the base of the tree and instruct them to significantly weaken the tree halfway through, and then you throw a large rope around the mid-section of the tree and attach it to your tractor and start pulling, you might get the tree down. But you will most likely end up with some significant medical bills and several scars. This would be classified as a failure. At this point, a neighbor might demonstrate the proper use of a chainsaw. Not wanting to take responsibility for some bad decisions, you point to chance. "Your way and my way are different, but you can't really know how it's going to turn out. Either way could work."

Raising children rightly:
If you choose to withhold discipline, and your nurture is limited to the instincts that are generally given to all parents, and your training is a supplement to the government's training, and religion is seen as a good extracurricular activity, your children will probably grow up and be considered "raised." But if those children proceed along the path on which you have set them, there will likely be several manifestations that display your failure. At this point, you're strolling through the park and you hear the sound of hymn-singing from a pavilion nearby...it appears to be a family reunion, but it turns out to be family union in Christ. Pointing to chance, you reckon that "they took a different path and ended up with a happy result, but you just never know which way will work."

Repeat that bottom-line again please
When you fail and your error is made clear for you, take advantage of the happy opportunity to repent and walk rightly before God.